Are you living where you want?
Sharing your life with the person you want to share it with? Doing the work you want to do? Enjoying the hobbies you want to enjoy? Travelling where you want to go?
What is it that you want in this life?
A lot of men get to a place where they can’t — or won’t — imagine what they want anymore. They feel so resigned to the shitty state of their lives, and forced to live forever with some of the choices they made when they were younger.
So they stop imagining, and stop letting themselves go there.
If that’s you, I want to offer you something today.
The Magic Wand
I do this exercise with the men I work with.
If you could wave a magic wand and that thing you want to change would change — what would it look like?
Where would you be? Who would you be with? What would your days look like? Where would you be working? What would you do just for fun?
If you don’t have the courage to do that exercise, if you don’t have the courage to imagine something different beyond what your current life looks like, nothing will change.
I mean that.
What Happens When You Do
A man I worked with experienced this firsthand.
“Wayne helped me find some calm at a very sad and desperate time in my life. I was once a joyless CPA, close to separation from my wife. Years later, I am happily married, pursuing my helicopter pilot’s licence, something my heart desired but my brain would not even allow me to think about back then.”
A joyless CPA who couldn’t even let himself imagine something new, and now his life looks completely different.
That’s what can happen when you open up to imagining what your life could look like.
Once you get clear about something you’d like to see change, all your energy can go into that.
The universe wants to support you, but you have to open up to it. Because once the energy shifts, you have no idea what’s coming your way.
So don’t cut yourself off from that possibility before it ever gets a chance. It’s not too late, too selfish, or too far gone. You don’t have to stay stuck where you are.
What to Do With This Today
Wave the magic wand.
Think about it, journal about it, talk to people about it, talk to your partner about it.
What would you like to see happen?
Let yourself want something again.
You might be surprised what becomes possible when you do.
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