Self Help Books for Men

What a brilliant book. Wayne exposed my missing N.U.T.s but showed me how to develop them. The BetterMen Tools are tools I’m also developing and family is reaping the benefits as well. On my 3rd or 4th time through the book right now as I’m working on forming new neural pathways to replace old ones that weren’t serving me well. Thank you Wayne. I’ve already paid this forward to a few men in my life and will continue to.

Wayne Levine’s book changed my life in many ways. It helped me to see, through a simple framework, what it means to be a man. To lay aside all of the years and feelings of victimhood and fear. To step up and take hold of my N.U.T.S and make drastic changes in how I approached my relationship with my wife. I now understand that she responds to me, she reflects my states and, that being the case, how I act and feel and communicate has a direct affect on her and on our relationship. Since putting these ideas into practice I have turned my marriage around. Thank you Wayne!

Every Man should have a copy! The best book I have ever read on relating to women!! Seriously, get this book!!!

Originally, I was offended by the title, but this book has serious information in it that every man needs to know. If you are compromising or sacrificing your beliefs in any way for your wife, girlfriend, fiance, etc — you need this book. If you’re afraid to rock the boat you need this book. If conflict scares you – you need this book. If you know you need to stand up for yourself in your relationship but are unsure of yourself – you need this book.

Hold onto your N.U.T.S. is an excellent read and workbook for anyone looking to find focus to themselves.

Amazing tools and tips presented in a straightforward fashion that really works. I found every page applicable to real life, and beneficial to my relationship.

This is an excellent book for spiritual men especially to read. Because Levine emphasizes some significant moral values. Levine also talks about the responsibility of men and how to be sure that your lady is satisfied in an intimate relationship. This is a foundation book. If you can’t do what Levine says you can never go on to the spiritual aspects of loving a lady which I thoroughly discuss in my class on relationships on my website. It’s very reasonably priced.

I think every male born in the world should go home from the hospital with this book. But, since they don’t every male should read this. Maybe a man will take advice from another man who “gets it.”

I liked this book because it was simple to read, direct and honest with opinions that seemed very sound to me. There was no overly masculine bragging or bravado, just real mature, sensible talk.  Make no mistake, if he is as sincere and good as the book, it could be a game changer for some men. Definitely give the book a look if you feel you want to be more of a man- a good man- not a Bruce Willis, or Stallone make believe man, but a real man in the real world.

This book is awesome! Wish I would have read this years ago! It would have helped me so much more in my marriage and as a man earlier. I am ordering more copies to give to other men I know.

This book should be on all men’s reading lists. If you are serious about improving yourself as a man, read it!

This is a book about how to let natural masculinity develop instead of fighting it. An unstated premise is that for many men, it is not possible to be themselves, with the gender behavior that would be natural, because they were taught that to be a masculine man is to be a bad man. There are bad men of course, and because bad men have resisted socialization, they have masculine traits as well as bad traits. That most people can’t tell the difference between what is masculine and what is bad is why this book has valuable information for everybody, men and women.

The author spends more time describing solutions than describing the problem, which is rare in this field and highly commendable. I only did not give it five stars because of two small points (and four and half stars is not clickable). First, the author is not clear in the discussion of NUTS (non-negotiable unalterable terms) about how to avoid a NUT that limits or oppresses other people. Of course the author and most readers know the difference between a guiding principle for oneself and a power and control move, but it does not come out strongly in the discussion. Secondly, the process of growing nuts is seen in terms of ideas, images to live up to, and consciously-willed steps. This could lead to ‘just’ a slightly more sophisticated attempt to ‘act like a man’. To truly grow nuts, it is perhaps also important to work with feeling (sensation), desire, and energy because growth is an unconscious process for which the will can only provide the conditions (and then get out of the way). The author does strongly encourage readers to join a men’s group, and perhaps that is how the more visceral part is managed.

My wife and I were going through some rough times. She wanted me to go back to reading “The Five Love Languages” and while I like that book, I already knew it and didn’t think it would work again. She had told me several times that I need to grow up and I wasn’t being enough of a man. This book has helped me change that. It has boosted my confidence and gotten us back to a good place in our relationship. Every man should read this book. It extremely entertaining and very quick to the point!

This is a must read book for any man who wants to become a better romantic partner to his wife/partner. The author provides some valuable tools that can help you do your inner work while also showing up for your partner. I began applying these skills in my relationship and noticed an immediate improvement in the relationship and how I showed up. I recommend reading the book and then applying the skills. Make sure you also talk with other men so you can do the work together!

Exactly the direction I needed to start being a better man in all my relationships! I would recommend this book to any man that is confused or has any doubts about their current relationships.

This book is accessible and repetitive, which is good for learning new habits. The way it’s organized makes it easy to tackle- I read it in one weekend. As a woman my take away is that men’s relationships with other healthy men is crucial. Men need quality time with other actualized men. If a man doesn’t have his brotherhood, it’s a red-flag warning sign. I’d like to see the author’s thought evolution process after all these years. Where’s book #two?

Life changing. This is the most powerful book for men I have come across. I’ll be forever grateful for the clarity the author brings in very skillful writing. I see all my mistakes, and I have the solution laid out before me in this book.

Being raised by a mom in a family with sisters left me ill prepared to know how to be a man. No matter how well intentioned a mom is, she is not a man and would have an extreme difficulty conveying to a boy what it means to be a man. Wayne Levine makes some very good points using a hilarious analogy to define key points in what a man is….or who he should aspire to be.

Love the actionable tools, tips and advice Wayne offers in this amazing resource. Every man needs to learn to identify and hold onto his NUTs.

I coach guys. My work with them is often two part. One part: letting go of old habits (too much internet, binge watching, gaming, gambling, etc.) The second part is creating a life that REALLY interests them. A life that they are passionate about and that connects them more to their heart and soul. I recommend this book to the men I coach. Wayne has a great way of talking to men that is honest, clear, and authentic. I recommend this book for every guy that wants to live and create a life that works better for himself. I also recommend this book for women who want their men to be stronger and a better men. It has been my experience that everyone benefits when a man is a strong man. This book continues to assist me be a better husband, father, and man because I continue to ponder Wayne’s wisdom.

This is a quick read and immensely helpful. Give it a try. You will find it was well worth the effort.

Great book! I recommend this book highly – for men and also for women, even though it was written for men, specifically. It is about finding and how to stick to your non-negotiable, unalterable terms – those things by which you live to have integrity and respect for yourself and your life, while also treating others with respect too. Very helpful – helped me define and write out my own N.U.T.s even though I’m a female. 🙂

The things society tells us about men and women are well intentioned but are causing relationship pain. This book has helped me better understand my role as a man and how to be more confident and grounded in who I am and the man I need to become for myself and my relationships. I will be reading it again and again.

Practical information that works when applied sincerely. The trick is not to let emotions get in the way. Feelings are to be expressed plainly and simply but not defended. Use the “hot” buttons as a cue to respond differently than our instincts want to. Great tools.