BetterMen Tool No. 3 is Cooperate Without Compromising Your N.U.T.s. – your Non-negotiable Unalterable Terms.
Now how are you supposed to do that? Well, you only have a few N.U.T.s., right? These core values, these things that you cannot compromise under any circumstances. And beyond those N.U.T.s., everything else is negotiable.
You can cooperate, you can take care of things even if you don’t particularly want to do them, you can go to a different kind of restaurant, you can see a different movie. We’re not talking about compromising what’s really important. But most things do not come under the category of these Non-negotiable Unalterable Terms.
The reason that a man might not want to cooperate is because he’s angry, or he’s upset, he’s disappointed, he has unresolved issues with his partner that they’re not talking about. And so, he’ll stomp his feet, and he’ll refuse to do something like take out the trash or make the bed or some other thing that she’d like him to do.
You have to be very careful. If you don’t talk about the things that are really important, you’re going to be passive-aggressive, and this behavior will undermine your relationship. So learn how to cooperate without compromising your N.U.T.s.