I’m a divorce coach. I’m not an attorney. But I have got to tell you, I know shitty legal advice when I hear it, and I’ve heard a lot of it over the years.
We tend to abdicate responsibility for our decisions to people we hire in times of crisis—like doctors and attorneys. But you can’t just say, “here, you make the important decisions in my life that I’ll have to live with forever.”
Sometimes attorneys are wanting to do what’s expedient, but not necessarily what’s in your best interest, or in the best interest of your kids. So, it’s incumbent upon you to be awake, to be alert, to fully participate in this legal process.
Ask questions, ask for input from people you trust other than your attorney. Make sure that what is being suggested really feels right to you.
Because you’ve got to trust your instincts. It’s your life. When this process is over your attorney will be gone, but you’ll have to live with the results.
So, pay close attention to how this is playing out. It is your life.