In my book Hold On to Your N.U.T.s: The Relationship Manual for Men, I offer eight BetterMen Tools. And the first one, and probably the most difficult one to implement, is to Silence the Little Boy.
Silence the Little Boy.
This is not the little one, the inner child, who was deeply wounded and needs special attention to heal. We’re talking about the behaviors of a kid who’s now grown up into an adult who hasn’t let go of those old ways. Those ways where he wants what he wants when he wants it, and when he doesn’t get it he stomps his feet: stomping your feet through life, being angry, resentful, mopey, manipulative.
Now this little guy, he needs to be silenced so that you can be the best example that you can be for your kids and that you can have a long-term successful relationship. You can change your ways by learning some tools, by understanding where these behaviors are coming from, and by implementing new behaviors in your relationships.
With these tools, couple skills, and some guidance, you can definitely silence that little boy. And with that, you’ll have a much better chance of having the kind of relationships that you really want.