Ask For Help

October 25, 2017

We are a proud species and sometimes really stupid—men. We won’t ask for help, and you know this about yourself. There may be some areas in your life that you can ask for help—work, fixing the motorcycle, something like that. You know you can go to YouTube videos and learn a lot. But when it comes to relationships, sex, we are very reluctant to ask for help because we’re embarrassed and we think that everyone else has it together and we’re the only ones looking for these answers.

And none of that’s true. We all need help.

I have some very smart men in my circle, men who’ve done men’s work, and clients over the years who know so much. They’re brilliant. People come to them for help. But it was very difficult for them to come to me for help because they were so ashamed that they had gotten into a situation where they didn’t know what they were doing. They were in over their heads. They were stuck.

So, I just want you to know that asking for help is so important. And now, in this divorce process, you have no choice. But the help you need is beyond legal. It’s emotional, spiritual, psychological. You need all the help you can get, and it’s something that I will offer you if we work together. And it’s the kind of help that will not just aid you through this divorce process. I like to think that it’s the kind of help that will support you for the rest of your life.