Divorcing With Integrity

October 25, 2017

Some things are really hard to do. Some things we don’t want to do. For instance, marketing my services as a coach is the last thing I want to do. I don’t want to do this, I just want to do my work. And I think that goes for a lot of you guys, especially entrepreneurs. You don’t want to have to get business. You just want to do your business. Everything else can seem like an inconvenience, annoying, a chore.

Likewise with divorce—it’s something you really don’t want to do. The thought of it really can lock you up emotionally. But we have to do things that we don’t want to do. If you’re a father you already know that. There are things you have to do for your kids. There are ways that you are inconvenienced when you’re a father that you wish you weren’t. But you love your kids and you do it.

The same applies to your divorce. There are uncomfortable things you’ll have to do, choices you’ll have to make, that you’re just not going to want to do. And what’s important is that you do it with integrity, that you do it in a way that you’ll be proud of, that you’ll do it in such a way that your kids will be able to look up to you.
You want to be able to say to yourself, “hey, you know, I didn’t want to do this, this was uncomfortable, it was painful, but I did it in a way that I’m proud of, despite a few missteps and a few sleepless nights.”

And that’s how I went through my divorce. It was a bit messy. There were things I did I could have done better. But overall, I was proud of the way I handled myself. And now that it’s over, I’m very happy that I received the counsel from the men in my life that kept me on the straight and narrow.