Have you ever been betrayed? Really disappointed in someone’s behavior? They didn’t show up the way you wanted them to or they didn’t show up the way that you would have. You lost trust, they really surprised you, it hurt terribly.
Well, it’s something that we need to learn to get over, because having expectations only sets us up to be disappointed. Why? Because not everyone is going to do what you would wish they would do in a particular situation. But it’s also important to remember that everyone has a story, and more often than not, people believe the behaviors they exhibit were the right thing to do, at least at the time. It makes sense to them. It may not make sense to us, and we may have a lot of complaints about what they did, but in the moment it definitely made sense in terms of who they are or how they felt in the moment or why they were reacting that way.
There is work to be done for us to let go of these expectations and also to just understand that everyone’s got a story, including us, that it makes sense to us at the time, and to accept that not everything is going to go our way. If we can do that, we won’t feel so betrayed.