When we want to change something important in our lives, something that seems to be resistant to change, something we’re having a tough time with, we need to look at the stories that we tell ourselves about why that thing is or why we behave this way or why our lives have ended up this way or why this relationship isn’t working.
The stories that we tell ourselves about what’s actually happening, we get attached to. And those stories, whether they are based in truth—probably some of it is true—no longer are doing us any good. They trap us and they paralyze us.
To move forward, you have to be able and willing to let go of that story, because it doesn’t matter anymore. What matters is where you’re headed, what you want to do, and who you want to become.
To allow that future self to emerge, allow yourself to write a new story.