We’ve come to believe these days that if there’s something going on with us—let’s say we’re sad, or we’re anxious, or we’re afraid—that there’s something wrong with us, something that we need to fix. I’d like to suggest that, when we’re feeling these and other dark feelings, it’s not necessarily us and there’s not necessarily anything to fix.
What you’re feeling could be generational, something you’ve inherited from ancestors in your DNA. We are affected by energies of all sorts around us. We’re absolutely impacted by what’s going on culturally, in our society, in our neighborhoods, and in our families.
Sometimes, there isn’t necessarily anything to fix. There just might be something to be aware of. It’s okay to be sad, or angry… In fact, you ought to allow yourself to feel the depths of your pain, even if you don’t know where it’s coming from.
If you allow those feelings to come (in a safe environment) and then allow them to pass through you, you might find that there’s nothing to diagnose, just something more to understand about yourself.
Despite what our culture continually tells us, we don’t necessarily have to fix everything about who we are.
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