In my book Hold On to Your N.U.T.s—The Relationship Manual for Men there are a number of tools, and one of them is developing trusting relationships with men.
A lot of men really don’t have very deep, trusting, intimate relationships with other men. They are very surface. Even guys who grew up with childhood buddies and still have them in their lives find that they really can’t talk about the really hard stuff. And when you’re talking about really hard stuff, divorce falls into that category.
You may have already seen, either in your own experience or with others in your life, that when divorce is on the table, a lot of friends will disappear. Men shy away because it’s uncomfortable, they don’t know how to support you, or perhaps their wives take sides and the men, your buddies, go along to get along. Suddenly, friendships disappear.
Developing trusting relationships with men is important for all of us, no matter where you are in your life. If I were your coach, you would be developing a trusting relationship with me. Ultimately you’d be able to translate that skill to other men in your life—brothers, your dad, friends, and your sons, if they’re old enough.
A valuable upside to doing this kind of work, this man-to-man kind of work, is that you’ll start to have the kind of relationships with other men that will serve you for the rest of your life.
